Hello there –
I’m Kerry, the mom of two daughters, ages eleven and thirteen.
Raising my girls has been one of the most fulfilling and challenging experiences of my life. I’m sure you can relate.
When I was a new mother, I wanted more than anything to build a close, loving relationship with my newborn daughter – one full of mutual respect and openness.
But at the same time, I cringed at the thought of being a push-over parent. No child of mine would disrespectfully walk all over me.
As the infant years turned into toddlerhood these seemingly competing goals began to clash.
If my daughter stepped out of line, I’d be firm and unbending in my discipline. She needed to know the correct way to behave and punishment was the best way to do it, I reasoned.
But when these moments arose, deep inside I questioned if I was doing the right thing. It hurt to see her so frustrated and angry. And it was clear that a rift was growing between us.
It felt like I was going to have to make a choice – a close, loving relationship with my daughter or raising an unruly, entitled brat.
Deep inside though, I knew there had to be a better way.
So I began to read…and write.
Five years ago I began Self-Sufficient Kids to learn for myself and help support other parents on a similar path.
And fortunately, I’m here to tell you that, it is possible to have a close, loving relationship with your kids while also providing them the discipline and guidance they need to become gracious, independent and eventually self-sufficient.
As I quickly learned, getting to that point requires a willingness to let go of outdated parenting advice about getting kids to behave.
It also takes a bit of soul-searching as it soon becomes clear that kids’ emotions and misbehavior doesn’t happen in vacuum – parents also play a leading role.
It also requires letting go of the modern tendency to hover over our children as we attempt to cultivate the perfect life for them.
No parent is perfect, in fact, imperfect parents are often the best parents, so don’t be too hard on yourself along the way.
But if you’re ready to get started, you’ve come to the right place.
More about me:
For the past five years I’ve managed Self-Sufficient Kids.
Before beginning this site, I worked for ten years in market research, including three years at a Fortune 100 company.
- Have a degree in economics
- Received my MBA in 2006
- Obtained a Certificate in Financial Planning from Boston University
- Have read over 30 books on positive parenting, raising independent kids, and education. (See my book list here)
- Serve on the board of an independent school for kids ages 15 months – 8th grade
- Been featured in the following publications: Huffington Post, Motherly (formerly Parent.co), Sheknows Media
Understanding children and teaching them the life skills they need to be successful has become my passion. I’m always interested in learning more and better understanding the best tools and techniques to help, not only my own children, but all children how to reach their full potential.
More about Self-Sufficient Kids:
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